P's of Life and Business
First off, I do enjoy therapy, but I seriously feel like it's such a waste of time until the moment I get into the office and sit down and talk things out! I for some reason build this idea in my head, that I don't have the time for this right now.
Time is my biggest commodity right now. As a working mom, who home-schools, and runs a business. It is hard to find time to do anything, especially when it comes to my self care/ mental health!
I'm not knocking therapy I think it's actually amazing, but when you're overwhelmed and have a long list of things to do. You don't exactly want to waste your time driving to your appointment to sit and talk for an hour, but I do it, because I know I need it!
So, my last therapy session we came up with originally with 5 P's to make my life more manageable and in hopes relieve some overwhelm and anxiety I deal with on a daily basis. You can see a short version of this on my Instagram as a reel and carousal.
Patience! This to me is laughable! I'm one of those people who likes things to happen fast! The only thing that slows me down is my responsibilities, like my children & my spouse! I take time for the people I love, but having so many responsibilities makes this very difficult.
Also, having patience in business is very difficult! You spend all this time on your "baby", your business. Then wonder why it's not working for you? There usually are a few reasons things don't roll out for you right away, but that's another topic for another day!
Mind of Matter is truly a real thing! Keeping a positive mindset definitely helps with the daily overwhelm and responsibilities throughout the day to day!
You want to make sure your mindset remains positive. Plus, positivity truly is contagious! No one wants to be around a "negative Nancy!" Now, I want to be clear I don't want you or me or anyone to go around being a "Pollyanna!" There is definitely a healthy balance to it!
It's incredibly easy to get wrapped up in the world around you and lose track of all the things. Instead what I like to do, is focus on what I CAN control. Rather than, focusing on what I can't control!
This is simple if you're this type of person! I'm not! I'm chaotic! I have to make an extreme effort in planning to get anything done at all! It's truly a vice, but I want to say I'm getting better at it!
Batching my content and getting things done when they need to be done. There is a term "Eat the Frog." This basically means get your hardest task done first in the day that way it's finished, and you can move on to easier tasks.
Also time blocking is huge in our house! We home school so we have to block out our time or it's complete chaos! Plus most of us thrive on routine. So get one set in place. Even if it's not set in stone. You'll eventually figure out your rhythm of the day and what works for you and what does not work for you!
We are big on the pomodoro method, which means you work for a certain amount of time then allow yourself a break. I typically can work longer by myself. My 2 boys are much different I'm lucky if I get 20- 30 minutes out of them sitting still and working. They need "brain breaks" to shake off all that extra energy!
It would be silly for me to say, I'm ignorantly living in bliss! Especially since it is technically April Fool's Day! I think most of us who live in the Western World are still in denial about what is going on over in Ukraine. I live in a very small, very back woods, state of Mississippi. When the pandemic started, most people didn't wear masks. I work a very odd job where I don't come in contact with very many people. The company I contracted through just streamlined my job recently, and now I have a day off! A lot of people would celebrate this! I am still on the fence about the whole thing! This is one day less of work I'm getting paid for, yet this is also one more day I get to spend with my family even though our schedules are pretty wonky!
To be honest though, I'm scared! I'm scared for my boys to come up. I'm scared to see if this is going to escalate to WWIII! I'm scared of a lot of uncertainties! What if they re-enact the draft? What if America jumps in like we have in the past? My oldest is such a pacifist. My youngest is a fighter! They are night and day, and I know these are just worries, but for what it's worth this is just my "little ole" blog, so I can post whatever I want on it! Oh to be in the 21st century in the USA!
We are living in a time of so many uncertainties. I have to remind myself daily sometimes multiple times a day. I should not worry about things I have no control over. This is very hard, but it's working right now at the moment. I'm still masking when I go into public indoor spaces. A lot of people are not, not where I live.
When they ended remote learning in our area, we made the decision to keep our child out. He wasn't ready to go back. I don't think he wants to go back. I think he really likes doing his school work at home and having the rest of the day to himself. He did not have any close friends in the school we were enrolled in so I think that made his decision easier. So, like any other normal parent, I have worries about my children and the world they are being brought up in.
I'm still working on my consulting business even though it is slow. I did not expect it to be this difficult to do both, but I've got to do what I have to do. I'm making goals to begin to teach my oldest what I do. When you're younger, you have more opportunities. I just want him to focus on school and doing the best he can do. My youngest will begin school soon. This is going to bring on a whole other set of challenges, but we'll get through it like we always do. Somehow, we always find a way.
It's amazing how you can have all this worry, but still remain so hopelessly optimistic! So for now, I will stick with my goals, remember to remind myself not to worry about what I have no control over.